Today is the big day. Today my new kids are suppose to find out about us. I hope everything goes well. I hope it happens! I will update.
Last night Pete and I went on a LONG walk. I have been anxious and very stressed out about the new kids coming. He is the best. He helps me navigate through my own feelings and pin point what it is that has me worried. What has had me worried isn't really about the new kids joining our family. I know our choice is the right one. It was wonderful to figure that out! What is stressing me out is just managing everything. It's a lot of work to take care of so many people and I really want to focus
only on the kids right now... for at least the next year. This next year is a
big one for our family.
I want to sit on the floor and play more. I want to go on more walks and outings. I want to listen to my kids more, just look at them and listen to them, without doing 5 other activities. I want to tuck them in bed at night the way I dreamed I would and not be so exhausted that I can't wait to turn off their light and run away! I want to stop and listen to them explain to me why a bad guy figure is attacking the other guy and how one is tougher than the other, without being concerned that the washer is filling up with water and I have to get a load of laundry in! I want to spend time with Pete at night, other than loading the dishwasher together.
For at least the next year, it is critical that I am emotionally, physically, socially, and every other facet-"ally", available to my children. It is critical for my new kids, and also critical for my kids that are here with me now. We have a plan! I am so excited and I feel so relieved. We are postponing our construction plans. The city misfiled our blueprints and are just now getting to them to approve our plans and our contractor's final bid is like $10,000 over what we have saved for the project, so we are postponing the construction. It's kind of a huge pain because we got everything ready to go, pictures off the wall, our whole garage cleaned out and everything into sheds, etc., but we are going to use that money to hire some help!
I don't need or want any help with the kids. That is my focus and I want to do everything... it's important for attachment etc. I would love some help managing our home. I don't like to cook and I don't like going into the kitchen trying to figure out what to make for dinner and then trying to cook when everyone wants my attention. Some help with the continual "mount Everest" of laundry on my bed would help, and I would love to not worry about bathrooms and mopping etc. All things that need to get done, all things that I can do and have been doing, but I need to have all my focus on the kids right now.
This my seem like a "no brainer" for some people, but I have only ever had a housekeeper for 2 weeks and then she disappeared and I have the mind set of- if I can do it myself, we can save money and spend it in other ways. But, getting some house help is really important right now for us, so now I just need to find the right person.
I might have found the right person already. Last night, after our walk, Pete made some calls and got the cell number of a different Bishop in a different ward (congregation). He called the number and said he hopes it's o.k. that he called on his cell and that he got his number from so and so, but we are looking for someone to help us in our home and we were wondering if you have anyone that is looking for a job. He quickly said... "well, yes I do and she is sitting right in front of me now, and we were just talking about her employment situation. You are an answer to her prayer, brother". It was pretty cool, so we are calling that lady today to see if she is what I am looking for.
It will be wonderful to sit down with my family and eat a yummy dinner that someone made for us! It will be nice that after we tuck the kids in bed at night, Pete and I can hang out and not have to do the dishes! I can't believe it... I'm excited!
p.s. My kids will still have family jobs and will learn how to work and be responsible.